"And then the day came, when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." Anais Nin
Or to paraphrase Steve another member of DS-
"Life changed...So I decided it was time to change my life."
In the Natural World, adaptation is usually linked to survival. In our lives it often plays a very similar role. To survive and thrive requires a series of adjustments.Everyday there are adaptations (choices) to be made.
Some are scarcely perceptible. We stop to mail a letter and the post-office is closed for an hour. So we mull it over for a moment...then maybe we walk to a nearby Cafe for a cup of coffee and maybe read a chapter or two in a book.
Some are more annoying. There is road-work on your usual route necessitating a detour daily until it is finished. Annoying but still manageable, as we scout for the best way to get around the roadblock until the month passes and the work is done.
Then there are the biggies. These can go unnamed. We all know what they are. The lifemoments that shake your core beliefs. Take away your firm foundation. Leave us dazed and confused. Or alone. Jobless. Or disabled. Homeless or Childless. Widowed. Orphaned.
A Survivor.
And after the dust settles we realize that not only has everything changed. We have changed as well.
Perhaps a bit more assertive. Or a little less naive. A little more (or less) tolerant. Less trusting. Maybe we appreciate the little things more. Maybe we take less for granted. It's a process. And one size NEVER fits all.
So we stumble through the darkness toward the light, because if we look for it...there is always light.
And when we emerge...we are transformed. Just as tempered steel is given strength by the furnace and extreme heat. We are tempered. Stronger. And whereas our lives will never be "the same"...we can look forward and build the life we want today.
